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/This is for my idea. People out there. The ones who not only dream big, but also dreaming multiples. Who could easily come up with 30 plus businesses or project or [00:01:00] things to do?
Within an hour of you asking them to. I am this person. And I love being this person. Ideas, give me energy. I love visualizing what could be. I can see it in pristine detail. I can feel it in my soul.
And I now fully lean into this because it's my superpower. It's what makes me unique. And I finally realized that not everybody can do this. And if used appropriately. It's what I need to change the world.
And oh my goodness. Has it been challenging at times? Do you have this inside me? And it has been so easy. To beat myself up for it. Partly because our culture doesn't necessarily [00:02:00] highly value the ideation phase. Uh, things. So I hear phrases and I kept funny looks and even rolling of the eyes when I share a, yet another idea that I have with someone.
But mostly. The voice in my head is my biggest critic. So I've had to learn. And I continue to learn how to calm that voice. To get it to speak more kindly to me. And to start to see the positives instead of the potential negatives of being able to come up with so many amazing ideas.
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get your feet on the ground.
Another idea that you aren't going to finish.
You're an idea person, not a finisher. I can't you just do something, pick something and do it. Squirrel.
Sound familiar. [00:03:00]
I say these things to myself all the time and sure. Maybe once or twice I've heard them from others, but honestly it's me that says it the most. And do you reckon that. This is helping me get into action by hearing this all the time. No.
What happens is that. Because of all these things. Because of all these stories and beliefs that I'm telling myself, Is that I resist the urge to IVA, which is my natural way of being. I resist it so that I can get into action. But then. Because it's my natural process. To ideate. Very little action happens. Or. A little action happens and I feel super grumpy about it. But what if I give myself permission to dream? To come up with ideas. What, if you give yourself permission to dream? [00:04:00] To come up with as many ideas as you want.
It's then.
That we get the energy and the momentum.
Is then that I set aside doing time for my priority work. And I set aside ideation time for the work that I find funnest.
If I had followed through with every business idea that I've had since quitting my. Last job. Quote, unquote. I would have at least 10 different businesses by now. Some of them would probably be pretty successful.
So I have this story that I tell myself. If I'm not careful enough to catch myself telling myself this story. But each new idea. Is separate from the last. That is just another day idea. That to pursue it is to give up on the [00:05:00] last idea. And it's starting from scratch. That to pursue this and failing at something else. There's an awful lot of sheds. In there.
So what if it wasn't.
I have this crazy idea that entered my head last Friday. So that's like three days ago and I cannot stop thinking about it. I went to this incredible and unique indoor play space with my kids and nephews. And I got this spark of an idea while I was there. And over the next two hours, watching them, I basically came up with most of the business plan. So you can see how my mind goes. My area. Like where I live needs one of these indoor play areas. It was inspired by nature.
It'd be small and intimate and creative. It would be a space for community to gather for parents to meet a place, to [00:06:00] feel together and less alone. And all of the coaching and wellness work that I'm doing. Right now. Could run out of the same building. It would be like a hub. And other parents can, co-work there to us.
Changemakers could go change the world together. And, and, and.
I might run with this idea at the moment. I'm pretty darn excited about it. And if I do, I'll share more with you. But the point is I've developed a process for myself as I start to recognize idea to take shape. So I wanted to talk you through what I'm doing. With myself right now with this big. Slightly crazy idea that is coming into my head. And then I'm getting pretty darn excited about. So the first thing.
I'm going to say is. This is my process and it might help you too. So if you're an ideator, if you're someone who totally [00:07:00] relates to everything I just said, who will get these, like write a business plan and an hour based on a spark of an idea that you got from. Something seemingly random. This is a process that I fall follow in order to.
Make sure that I keep my ideation as a superpower. To make sure I get into action by allowing myself to ID.
So if this process helps me, perhaps it will help you. So first I allow myself. To get an idea mode. I don't stop myself in the middle of it. And if I hear those little things in my head telling me to just. You know, say thanks and. See you later.
I allow myself to do what I dream big. I write every single thing I can down.
In this case, I actually wrote five pages of an email. If there was pages on an email whilst on a one [00:08:00] hour flight. Just shortly after I had this idea.
But by writing it down, I then know that my idea exists. I'm not going to lose it. I don't have to hold it in my head any longer, unless I feel like it.
Right.
So that's the first step is just allow myself to do it. And the second is I wait one week. To see if I'm still just as excited. And keen to take action.
You can feel free to talk to people about it along the way. And continue to ideate. I just let myself sit on it. 'cause sometimes. I'm so excited, not about the specific idea, but about the process of having the idea. And this helps me differentiate, which of those it is in this case.
So after a week, Step three. If I'm still excited. I talked to as many people as possible about it.
Once who [00:09:00] I trust. Once we'll get me excited. I do them first. And then to ones who might look at me, totally confused. And I know that going in, I might talk to my dentist about it or the person down the street who happens to sale a low. Or the person at school drop-off. But I know that. They don't fully know me. And I have to put my ego aside. Because it's the confusion that they're going to have.
That's going to help me to phrase it better the next time. And narrowed down on the details. And the description. The idea.
So step four. Throughout all of this. I pay attention to myself, limiting beliefs around it. I noticed my resistance to leave an old idea behind.
I Noticed my tendency to think that this is a new idea. Even though it, in fact is, is accumulation of. Many ideas and [00:10:00] experiences throughout many years.
And then I have to not judge myself for judging myself. I simply notice that I judged myself. And I move on.
Step five. Write down why I'm excited about it. So that when I start doubting myself or things get hard. And I can't remember why it was exciting anymore. I can look back and see. Perhaps, write it down or leave an audio message for yourself. Prepare for it to be hard at times.
We love ideation because it is the sexy ideation stage. Right. It's not always going to be that way. Sometimes it's going to feel a lot harder.
So by writing this down or sending yourself a message in some sort of way. We create a reminder. As to why this was exciting. [00:11:00] So that I could get myself excited again.
And I let myself continue to write down other ideas as they come. Because just cause I'm psyched about this one doesn't mean I'm also excited about something else.
But I do this process again with something else. I write it down.
Because.
I might think in this moment that these ideas are separate. But they might not be as well. And by writing it down. I can get that energy back from the idea mode. And decide whether to put it into this idea. That I'm working on.
And step six, if I'm still excited after a couple of weeks. Get into action. Don't overthink. Just do. Learn and adapt. And, you know, what. If in a month's time, the idea [00:12:00] shifts or I get a whole new idea. Fantastic. Write it down and see if it sticks. Need to get into action with this idea when another comes. Right, uh, down, allow yourself an hour to ID ideate. Write it down and leave it to the side while you focus on this thing. If you allow yourself the space to follow through with ideation. Then, if you're anything like me, Then you will feel more energized and aligned and writing it down means I always know.
I can come back to it.
So here's to you. My ideators, my visionaries. This is your superpower. Stop telling yourself otherwise. Let yourself have ideas and find a way to use the energy. That they give you. To get stuff done.
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That is it, folks. This has been Mel Finlayder on Permission to Be Human, the podcast, [00:13:00] and I am so glad that you have joined us here today and hope that you have taken away some tidbits that will help you go away, connect with your big audacious dream, and make that massive impact in the world that you are dying to make.
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